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Like A Song: Every Breaking Wave

@U2, August 12, 2015
By: Beth Austin

 

Like A Song[Ed. note: This is the 93rd in a series of personal essays by the @U2 staff about songs and/or albums that have had great meaning or impact in our lives.]

How does U2 do it? How are they capable of writing the song that perfectly conveys a point in time of my existence? Whether it is a personal triumph, tragedy or turning point, U2 have written songs that could serve as the soundtrack to my life.

“Every Breaking Wave” will go down in history as the track that defines my mid-life years, my 50s, where circumstances have changed and I will change.

I have been divorced for 20 years (wow … really?). As some of you might know, divorce can do a number on you. It tests you. It unleashes an assault on your self-esteem. It crushes your dreams for the future and forever changes you. It took some time, and I survived that loss although not unscathed. I was determined after coming out of the fog that I would never be married again. I would not allow myself to endure that darkness for a second time. I became furiously independent and determined that I could get through life as a single.

Every breaking wave on the shore
Tells the next one there'll be one more
And every gambler knows that to lose
Is what you're really there for


Summer I was fearlessness
Now I speak into an answer phone
Like every falling leaf on the breeze
Winter wouldn't leave it alone

Ten years ago I met “Alex.” He was a confirmed bachelor, never married and determined to stay that way. We had several common interests, and he had an adventurous side that was appealing. Perfect, I thought. No worries about commitment. We set out to forge a new path together in Austin. How exciting: a new city with a new partner. For the most part, those first years were exhilarating as we discovered our adopted city together. But there was always an air of impermanence. We flirted with breaking it off again and again because we could. No legal document was holding us back.

If you go
If you go your way and I go mine
Are we so
Are we so helpless against the tide
Baby, every dog on the street
Knows that we’re in love with defeat
Are we ready to be swept off our feet
And stop chasing every breaking wave


As the years sped by, as they do when you reach a certain age, we became more distant. For me the relationship was coming to an inevitable conclusion. There was no reason to try to repair the damage. How could this be happening again? Am I just a broken soul, incapable of allowing myself to go deep and expose my true feelings, or demanding that he communicate his to me?

Every sailor knows that the sea
Is a friend made enemy
And every shipwrecked soul knows what it is
To live without intimacy

I thought I heard the captain’s voice
But it's hard to listen while you preach
Like every broken wave on the shore
This was as far as I can reach

Earlier this year, “Alex” and I ended our relationship for good. How easy it was this time around. Find an apartment; divide the furniture. You keep the cats; I’ll take the dog. It was over just that easily. No lawyers and no heartache, or so I thought.

If you go
If you go your way and I go mine
Are we so helpless against the tide
Baby, every dog on the street
Knows that we’re in love with defeat
Are we ready to be swept off our feet
And stop chasing every breaking wave

I work as a hospice social worker. I bear witness to the grief that couples experience as they lose their life partners. It can be heart-wrenching, yes, but also joyous to see the bond and deep love that many of these lifelong couples have for each other. They have been steadfast in their commitment and vows to each other. “For better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.” How comforting it must be to have your love with you, holding your hand, as you pass from this life.

The sea knows where are the rocks
And drowning is no sin
You know where my heart is
The same place that yours has been
We know the fear to win
And so we end before we begin
Before we begin

Over these past few months, I have become aware of how important it is to me to find this true relationship. I do not want my last years of life to be filled with foolish stubbornness. I want that person who will be at my side, wiping my brow and holding my hand as I take that final breath. I will wait for however long it takes. I am hopeful he is out there and we will ride that final wave together, committed until the end.

If you go your way and I go mine
Are we so helpless against the tide
Baby, every dog on the street
Knows that we’re in love with defeat
Are we ready to be swept off our feet
And stop chasing every breaking wave
Every breaking wave

(c) @U2/Austin, 2015



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